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A Dad's Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan

Haven’t we all at one time or another said something like, “Boy, I’d sure like to trade my life for his or hers!”  Sometimes it’s about someone we know personally but often it’s about a “famous” person who we think we know.  My assertion is that when we really think about it, we wouldn’t trade our lives with anyone! 

There’s a caveat to this assertion, naturally, which is simply health-related and extreme poverty related.  If someone were seriously sick, especially with a debilitating illness, changing lives would be nice.  If someone were starving to death in a corrupt nation, yes changing lives would also be a good thing.  But, for the average American or citizen of a free country without extreme poverty or corruption, this idea about not switching lives may apply and at least provoke some reflection. 

By Jodee Blanco,

Author of Please Stop Laughing at Me . . . One Woman's Inspirational Story

For the past eight years, I've been traveling the nation's schools, sharing my message with thousands of students, teachers and parents that it's NOT just joking around, that when kids tease and reject one another, they are damaging each other for life. I know firsthand because from fifth grade through the end of high school I was tormented by my peers, as so many other kids are today, simply for being "different."

A post from Asylum that might be of interest:

When Dads Get Depressed -- Who Says Postpartum is Just for Women?
http://www.asylum.com/2010/08/23/postpartum-depression-men-father-dad/

Check it out.

A Dad’s Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan

A Dad’s Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan

There’s a lesson that is told in most cultures. In Canada, it’s about the weather: “Wait a minute and it will change.”  Or, most everywhere on the good or bad in life; “This too shall pass.”  All are so true.  Right now, our family is going through both some ups and downs.  I try to remember the latter adage during the “down” periods and not expect the “up” ones to always last.  

A Dad's Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan

This topic is so obvious yet I have yet to write about it. It may be partly because it is so close to home, for my boys.  I was blessed to have my mother and father in my life completely and lovingly, until they died in recent years (at 89 and 90).  They loved me, supported me, and told me the truth when I needed to hear it, whether I wanted it or not.

Submitted by NYC Dads Group:

The Today Show aired a progressive segment this week on stay at home dads & working moms.  I wanted to share it with other at-home dads (and those considering the role) as well as their working wives.  The segment, titled "The Modern Family", included a personal spotlight on my family as opposed to a focus on our NYC Dads Group.  This segment had the promise to start shifting the at-home dad conversation moving BEYOND Mr. Mom...and I thought the Today Show did a really nice job of delivering on that message. Yep, included the bit about being termed something more appropriate like "modern men" or "involved fathers" as opposed to some other outdated terms splashed around by the media too often.

A Dad’s Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan

A recent Pew Research Center study called “Women, Men and the New Economics of Marriage (Jan. 19, 2010 by Richard Fry and D’Vera Cohn) revealed that women are making much more money, over the recent past, than at any other time in our history.  The study had the following opening: “The institution of marriage has undergone significant changes in recent decades as women have outpaced men in education and earnings growth.  These unequal gains have been accompanied by gender role reversals in both the spousal characteristics and the economic benefits of marriage.”

A Dad’s Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan

We just returned from a boy’s trip to Vegas.  By “boys,” I mean my two boys, who are almost 16 and 13 and me, the oldest of the “boys” (according to my wife).  I had to consider, yet again, the dilemma we confront as parents today, with the constant assault on our values and the non-stop sexual and violent imagery our kids face.  We can’t fully shelter our kids, but what should be the limits?

Lots of press this week about fathers and the changing role of men in marriage - iin case you didn't see it, there was a big Pew Research study released last week about the changing economic standing of women in American society.  This has spun off lots of articles, musings, rants, and other press that focuses on the corollary topics that we at-home Dads live on a daily basis.  After 10 years of this gig, I actually find it amusing that there is so much media angst about men earning less than their wives (let alone "letting" their wife earn all or nearly all the money).   I know guys st

Hello Dads:

Especially dads in the NYC area.  Michael Ivan Schwartz is having a priemere of his documentary on at home dads from Baltimore in NYC next week.   Lance Somerfeld and the guys at NYC Dads are hosting Michael for the showing of the film.  The showing will be on January 27th at 92YTribeca at 200 Hudson Street, the cost is $10.00 and you can get more info here;

Two of the worst things that can happen to a parent are the death of a child or losing a child to drugs. Tina and I just experienced the latter. I’m left wondering if the other would be easier to deal with and accept.

Scenario:  We are 2 months into going to the Catholic Communion Classes for 1st Graders, there is a proper name for it I am sure.  The wife is Catholic, I am not.   Our 7 year old son no longer enjoys going to "church school" once a week and hides under his bed not to go.  Mom either chooses to work or has to work late on "church school" night putting my son and me in MAJOR CONFLICT and making me the "bad guy" by forcing him to go to something I could care less about.  Please don't tell me to convert because it's not going to happen.  It is big on her agenda that he be Catholic and n

As much as I love being a stay at home dad, I need to start looking for a job.  In a previous incarnation I was an elementary school teacher (trying to get his foot in the door).  Now I'm wondering if I should list stay at home dad on my resume and/or cover letter?  I figure it might help explain the two year gap in paid employment.

I'd appreciate your opinions as well as your thinking as to why or why not to include the info as well as what you might put if you were to include this job.