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3rd child-scary or more self-imposed hype

dadathome
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My wife has said that she has an inner drive (for lack of a better term) to have another child.  And she knows I would really like a son;

we have two beautiful girls.  She plays that card and honestly I think she may be wearing me down.  My first reaction was paying for

the child and raising it correctly.  This was all before I took over the profession of SAHD.  The thought is growing on me.  Maybe its just

the thought of a son.  My question, is 3 that much harder than 2?  Chime in with your thoughts, experiences, or words of wisdom.

 

 

CHRIS


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Submitted by dadathome on Wed, 02/08/2012 - 2:39pm.

Suckerg
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how old are your girls and

how old are your girls and do you still have any baby items left? cribs etc.., plus, do you want more kids?


Wed, 02/08/2012 - 3:26pm

omahahomedad
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Yes

The simple answer from experience is that yes, two is harder than three. However, my most difficult time was going from 3 kids to 4. The reason, #3 and #4 are only 16 months apart. They are now 3 and 4 and it is just starting to get a little easier.

I don't regret having 4 kids and you won't either. My recommendation is to try to have the third one at least 2 years after your current youngest. And, better yet, make sure you have #2 potty trained before #3 comes along. Having 2 in diapers is tough dude!!!

Al Watts President, Daddyshome, Inc. - The National At-Home Dad Network www.daddyshome.org


Wed, 02/08/2012 - 3:53pm

dadathome
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My girls are almost 2 and 4

My girls are almost 2 and 4 and a half.  As far as baby things that we have left over, we have most of it.  Some smaller clothes have gone to the consignment store and a car seat has gone to a friend, but we would need a new one anyway.  And my wife tells me that she no longer has any maternity clothes.  I guess she gave them away with hopes of building a karma account.  As far as spacing on the kids, I do believe there would be around 3+ years between the youngest and the middle child; all hypathetical.  And the idea is growing on me, but it could be clouded by the thought of a son.  I would like some testosterone in the house to offset the estrogen, espicecally in the coming teenage years.   It is all just thinking now, but we are immediate people; not waiters by any means.  I am just trying to feel others out.  I am pretty sure my wife has made up her mind and I will be soon to follow.

 

 

CHRIS


Wed, 02/08/2012 - 9:14pm

Suckerg
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what if you have another

what if you have another girl? do you enjoy staying home?


Thu, 02/09/2012 - 6:47am

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50% increase

We started with three so I can't speak to the 50% increase.  Our best friends had their 3rd a year ago.  It seems the major challenge is the scheduling.  They had a 4 and a 2 when their third was born.  All three are on different sleep schedules.  Plus when the SAHM (Mom) goes anywhere she has a baby along with the two walkers.  It seems that going out just becoming more challenging.  She also has mentioned that it is a bit tougher to find babysitters.  But all that said I can't think of a "good" reason not to have a third if you all really want one.  Just know that it will suck for a while:)  lol!  Plus your "work" day gets lengthened again due to babies's sleep habits.

Good luck!

Al P.

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Thu, 02/09/2012 - 8:24am

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I have 4 kids. I think it

I have 4 kids. I think it was harder for us to go from 1 to 2 than it was to transition from 2 to 3 or 3 to 4.

 

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Fri, 02/10/2012 - 3:48pm

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The transition from none to

The transition from none to 1 is the hardest.  After that, its repetition.  We have 4 and they are 3, 4, 5, and 8 months.  The smaller the age gap, the easier it was for us also.  Our last, with a 3 year gap, has been the hardest

 


Tue, 02/14/2012 - 11:30pm

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