Getting baby to take a bottle (help!)

mbieweng
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Does anyone have any advice on getting a baby to drink from a bottle? I'm not new to this but this (second) time around I'm more stumped. Here are some details:

I've been trying the bottles occasionally for several weeks, starting at about 4 weeks old. He's now about 10 weeks. I've tried various nipples, different flow rates, different positions, feeding in the swing while swinging (this may sound crazy, but it's what did the trick with my older one), different milk temperatures, different levels of hunger, different times of day, dripping some milk, not dripping some milk, different people, waiting a few minutes, hours, days, etc, etc. This with mom's milk, not formula.

The reaction is pretty much the same every time. Mouthing around the bottle. A few half-hearted sucks, but without really sealing on to the bottle, so no real suction. Then, serious freaking out.

Our one sort-of success occured when I poked a bunch of extra holes in the nipple, thereby making the flow rate much faster than normal. Then, everything went more or less fine. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to repeat this success since.

It was a huge pain to get my older daughter (now 4) started as well. Changing to a different brand of nipple was what did the trick. No such luck this time.

Mom goes back to work in a few weeks, so it would be really nice to get this sorted out before then. I am picturing myself spending all day with a screaming hungry kid. Not fun.

Help!

P.S. Yes, go ahead with the jokes if you must....just please give me some ideas too :-)




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Jokes?

"Other than that Mrs Lincoln, how was the play?"

Hey Bro,
Why would we make jokes this is a serious sit-e-achen you have there.
My wife and I had a hard time with both breast feeding and getting her started on a bottle. Our friends recomended Dr. Brown's Bottles which apparently have a more realistic sucking mechanism. They aint cheep and have lots of bits but they don't allow air into the fluid flow more acting more like the real thing. That may help. I found with my daughter that one posistion was the best to ensure she understood food was bieing offered.

Good luck!

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Give it time

I know it seems cold hearted but keep offering the bottle and when she gets hungry enough she'll take it and do fine. Maybe milk up a clean finger and let her suck it and once whe realizes what it tastes like, she'll want more then try the bottle again.
Huck, snick, snort, haw! Have you tried a man boob? Sorry ;-0, I just had to...
All kidding aside, how did she do with a real nipple? Was she finicky, or did she eat well?

Mike, it's good to see you finally calling upon the vast resources here instead of babysitting us all!
Congrats, I didn't know you guys were pregnant!

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mbieweng
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Man boob

Uh, no...I haven't tried a "man boob" and I don't thnk I'm going to... :-)

He does fine with the real thing. It's just the bottle that's the problem. We had some very minor success (but not much) tonight with yet another bottle that we hadn't tried yet. (evenflo "comfi" with smaller, pointier, fill-in-your-own-adjective, nipples).

I agree that he'll eat when he's hungry enough. I'm not too concerned about him starving, just keeping the trauma (for both of us) to a minimum.



jhanafee
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Good Luck

Hey Mike,

Unfortunately I have no advice - we had the exact opposite problem with my son, he only wanted the bottle and not the real thing. I never quite understood his reasoning personally - I can relate much better to your son:).

What I can offer is a change of scenery if the trauma level gets too high for either one of you - you can come over here, we can come there, or we can meet somewhere. Getting out of the house or having "new" people around can be a life saver, as I'm sure you know. I don't mind a screaming baby and my daughter especially would love to have a baby around.

Good Luck!

Joe Hanafee



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Patience

It'll come. it'll come, have patience till the rest of the regular crew shows up Monday or so because of the holiday. The advice will flow then, as you know.
Sorry for calling your he a she.
As for the Man Boob, talk to Howard Ludwig bout it!
Cracked me up!

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Dr. Brown's

Hey Mike,

We were having the same problem (and my wife goes back to work in a week - ahh!), and the Dr. Brown's bottle did the trick for us. Carolyn hasn't had trouble taking the bottle for a week now. Unfortunately, it isn't the cheapest bottle...

Good luck!

Doug



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Watch or ask your wife

What does she do during feeding? What does she say to the baby? Does she look the baby in the eyes or does she close her own eyes to relax and let down?

If she says something to the baby, try saying the same things. My wife would say "Maaaammmaaaa" and such. So, I said the same thing to our little one when he refused. I kept saying Mama and milky over and over again. She doesn't always look him in the eyes, so I tried to focus on something else and relax. Our baby also seemed to sense if I was tense, so I tried to relax as much as possible.

More advice: alternate back and forth between the bottle and the pacifier, if your baby will take one. Ours would suck willingly on the pacifier, but not the bottle. So, I would switch back and forth to "trick" him and get him to realize that they were kind of the same.

Yes, the baby will do better in time. Don't give up. Our baby is 6 months now, and much, much better taking a bottle now. When mom goes back to work, the baby will protest the first day or so, but you will both get over it in time. Even if the baby doesn't eat much from the bottle during the day, it won't starve. He will "catch-up" with mom later. And, again, over time, the protest will come to an end.



mbieweng
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Thanks

Thanks everyone for the ideas.

Joe, I'm sure that I'll be up for a change of scenery before too long. I have another week of the easy-but-unsustainable "nobody works and we all just hang out" life before reality (i.e. back to work) returns. I do remember the stuck-at-home insanity from 4 years ago, though I'm not sure if knowing what's coming is a good thing or a bad thing.

We seem to be making some slow progress on the bottle, but nothing great yet.



jpod00
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A Little Trick

Hi,

One thing I did when our guys were having trouble: Once he got the nipple in his mouth, i pushed very gently on the bottle, in a rythmic fashion. This accomplished two things. First, it put a few drops of milk in his mouth to encourage the natural response of swallowing. Second, it seemed to generate another natural response of suckling.
Imagine (or try) holding the bottle between your thumb and middle finger. Just tapping on the bottom of the bottle with your index finger is sufficient pressure for this method.
By the way, it also helps to keep them going, or 're-start' if they seem to be falling asleep after just a few minutes of feeding.

Jim
Boulder, CO
Dad to Cole, Luke & Trev



mbieweng
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Update

Well, mom is back at work and I am back on the job as of today...

We are over the bottle issue. For anyone happening upon this that's curious, here's what the solution was: Have my wife do a few bottles. Those went fine right away, and now they are all fine. This is contrary to pretty much all of the "official" book advice out there, but that's what worked.

Also, the bottle that worked was playtex ones with the disposable liners. Dr Browns didn't do it for us.



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