my wife and i recently ran into a problem with my wifes sister cause from out of nowhere her sister just up and left the household and left my wife - kids and i high and dry - there was only one vehicle for all of us - my wife and i were working opposite shifts so at least one of us were home with the kids and her sister was being supported by us as well as others and now that she is gone with no warning we are in a bad spot in our lives as far as losing our jobs and so on - so i dont know what to do - suggestions or comments very welcom as well as insight - thanks - martin
problems with family members
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I have a few questions because I am confused.
Was your wife's sister the only one with a car?
Are you saying that you both could lose your jobs because of her leaving? Or are you saying that you already have lost your jobs?
Is your sister-in-law mentally stable? Did she leave because she was mad?
Do you have other family nearby?
Can you afford childcare?
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thanx for the response and yes my wifes sister was the only one with a car - i have lost my job cause of her already and my wifes job is not lost but has slowed down considerably cause she is a model and can only take jobs that the photographers come to our home to do or nearby locations in walking distance - she is a 22 year old with a 10 year old mentality - we do have family close by but not much they can do due to there own lives - and yes child care isnt an issue - the problem is we have no vehicle and no reason why she did this
Goodwill- Ask for a car.
Who does Goodwill help?
Goodwill serves those with barriers to employment. This includes individuals with disabilities, people with limited work history, those who have experienced corporate downsizing and recipients of government support programs. Goodwill's services are designed to meet the training and placement needs of the individual.
Don't be too proud to file for unemployment and food stamps. They base your paycheck on your recent job. I did it once, and it was super easy.
Martin
Tough spot you're in. First, try to forget about your sister-in-law for now. Let her go. Second, act quickly to make sure your kids will be ok. Call your local Community Chest or social services so that they can help you find the help that you need. They may have ideas about transportation, food and heating oil.
Third, you and your wife need to jump on trying to find some kind of jobs to pay the bills. Trading shifts or one of you working a night job is probably the best you can do for now.
Fourth, start scrimping and saving to get a cheap car. You can rely on a friend or a co-worker or maybe the community for now, but eventually you have got to get a car.
Fifth, start thinking about long-term job solutions and cheap childcare if both of you have to work.
Again, get on the phone first thing in the morning to your local community chest, social services, salvation army, goodwill, etc.
I wish you the best of luck.
Tight Spot
Martin,
That blows! But to echo JPhilip, stay as cool as you can. When you get your wind and your sheets are tided and your at full sail again, then take to the fighting tops and sail for your sister-in-law. (If you want to of course.)
It is one thing to want to be frugal, trust me on this I have been their, and it’s another to know how. I recommend this book:
"America's Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money: Your Guide to Living Better, Spending Less, and Cashing in on Your Dreams" by Steve Economides and Annette Economides
You can get it from the library. The Economides offer a lot of great tips on saving. They also have a news letter you could subscribe to.
Here is their website: http://www.homeeconomiser.com/
Best of luck with your situation and please keep us posted we are pulling for you.
~Jonathan
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