daily ADH shift?
My wife leaves about 9:00AM and returns about 7:30PM. That makes my "shift" about 10.5 hours. We have family breakfasts instead of family dinners.
Usually my wife doesn't have to travel, but she's been gone for most of the past 3 weeks and won't be back this week until Saturday night. Wish we lived closer to the Grandmas, because I'm wearing down.
Jim
Wife goes to work around 7 sometimes as late as 8, and usually gets home between 4 and 5 pm. Not too bad a day, and she lets me sleep in until she leaves for work!!!
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My wife is an elementary school Principal
A good day, like today - 7am until whenever (4:30-6pm)
A bad day, once or twice a week - 6am until 9 or 10pm (I hate school board meeting nights)
But I get weekends and 2 1/2 weeks during the summer off for the most part!
My wife leaves at 8:10 to drop our son off at school, and is usually home by around 6:00, sometimes as late as 6:30. That leaves me home with our 10-month-old daughter for varying amounts of time. My son is in kindergarten and has one short day (12:30) and two long ones (3:00). The other two days I pick him up at 12:30 and drop him at a social pragmatic group and pick him up at 2:30.
We do a lot of stuff as a family on weekends, which means I'm on the clock, but lovin' it. "My time" is Sundays when I play baseball during late spring to early fall.
Every other week I single parent and it is from 6h Monday to 18h Friday. Both boys are in school now, so I have that break - but its still very chaotic and tiring. We've pretty well had that schedule since sahd day 1 when the boys were 1 & 3. I actually think it was easier and a lot more fun back then. Non-travel weeks are 6h - 18h.
now keep in mind that this is only my 2nd day as sahd, but my wife usually works from about 0730 until usually 1800. as a PA it all depends on what doctor is there that day to help her with the patient load. you'd be surprised how many slack-ass, lazy doctors there are out there.
i'd sometimes have some weekdays off, and we'd still have sophia in daycare that day so i could get things done around the house...cleaning, lawnwork, etc. i'd pick her up from daycare about 3pm or so and rusume my duties. but that's a all over with now that i've left work. i think the biggest issue i have on my mind right now is how i'm going to get all this housework done with a 14mo old under my feet all the time.
i will say that my wife comes home exhausted at the end of the day, so i try not to just hand off sophia to her to go do my own thing. i did that a couple of times in the past, and it didn't go over too well. after 1830 when sophia goes to bed, that's when i think i'll get to do my own stuff.
And no, it's not because we've added a kid. We're still a one-preschooler family with one hard-working WAHD.
The issue is that a couple of minor changes to routine feel like they've doubled the length of my day. It used to be that Thorne Jr. would sleep through the night, then get up at a reasonable 7:30 am. On the longer (non-preschool) days, I'd cook him breakfast, then we'd head out to the park, library or backyard for some fun time. He'd nap after lunch, he'd wake up around the time Mom got home, I'd cook supper and get the dishes done, and he'd be back in bed by 7:30 pm or so.
Not any more.
In January, he learned to climb out of his crib. And this one little change basically send the entire schedule crumbling. Now he's up much earlier - 6-6:30 a.m. - gets up in the middle of the night at least once a week, refuses naps in the afternoon and fights Mom during his evening bath for the right to party late. It's also the Mrs.' busy season at work, which means many a late arrival home.
So, whereas my "on duty" time used to be 7:30 a.m.-5 p.m. with a nap, now it's more like 6 a.m.-7:30 p.m. without a nap. And I'm dragging.
But we roll with the punches, right? Should anyone want to hear all about this "live," feel free to go here. You'll get the whole story and the gory details in beautiful MP3 audio. ft
When Butters graduates high school and get the hezzie out of shezzie. Course that could easily stretch to 2030 if everything goes to plan and we have another after Rotormommy gets her Masters.
She's up a 0315. Out the door by 0400. At work by 0420. Works until 1530(ish). Until the semester ended, Tuesdays had class and got home at 1630, Thursdays had class and hockey and got home at 2300. Monday nights she has adult hockey skill clinic, so she gets home at 1600, has dinner, bathes the boy, puts him to bed, and then goes to the clinic from 2000-2130, home by 2200.
Next semester she's taking all her course via distance learning, but she siad she'll still probably go to the lectures. So it'll be more of the same.
I'm still trying to figure out how she does it all.
-Will
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My wife is a great! She gets up with the one year old and spends some time with her before leaving around 7:30am. My 3 y/o gets up around 7am, and that is when I get up too.
7am - 5:30pm on most days, but the wife has off on Thursdays, so we share duties that day.
If you count from when he gets up until Aud gets home:
06:00 - 18:30/19:00 (12.5/13)
If you count from when she leaves the house? 11-12:30 hours.
I usually count the former because let's be honest Andrew doesn't say, "hey why don't you start work when mommy does? Ill hang out quietly by myself until you are ready to parent."
Josh
SAHD Since August 2005
October 7 2005 @ 12:16 am........It hasn't ended yet....I really don't see the light. at the end of the tunnel either...LOL
To give my wife credit. She is the most supportive and understanding person I know... I would write this even if she does or does not see this.
She makes it easier to be me and to do what i do day in and day out...
HUUURRRRAAHHH for my wifey....
Chef Kev
Please stop biting Daddy's buttocks !!!!!
JPhillip said it, therefor it is, Chef= C=Caring, H=Helpful, E=Excellent, F=Fubar
Four days a week -- my wife has Tuesdays off as well. She's not one of those slack doctors cowabungachris talks about (she loves the PAs at her practice!).
FWIW, it only seems really long b/t 4pm and the end of the day. The morning flies by through lunch, afternoon play, nap and snack. I really have to fight the temptation to let them watch four consecutive Backyardigans around 4pm, however. We'll be heading outside in a bit today (where I may have beers one, two, three . . . ).
Mine goes to work around 7 a.m. and gets home around 6 p.m., but that doesn't mean my "shift" is over. She may take her time with the kids when she gets home, but my job description goes beyond the kids, so it pretty much ends when we have tucked the kids in and I have done whatever is I need to do for the next day. Usually around 9-9:30 p.m. (give or take)
Then comes tax season. (Jan-mid April) As a CPA and partner in her firm, I become a tax season widower, a single parent so-to-speak. The kids don't really see much of her then. A little on Saturdays and on Sundays. I barely get time with her myself! My shift gets obviously gets longer then. But, oh well...what am i gonna do? Bitch about it? I guess I could, but that'll get me nowhere. Good thing I enjoy my job!
My wife is an on-call massage therapist, but she works in a spa where business has been picking up very well in these past few weeks (compared to how dead it was in the middle winter months). So, I usually drive her to the spa around 10ish, most days, and don't see her again until about 4 or 5... a solid span of 6 or 7 hours, most days.
While she is home, I'm still the primary - not sure why that is unless it's because I SAID SO! ;) You know what I'm talkin' about? Yeah, you do! It's not until I'm completely gone (at school, out playing disc golf with McP, etc) that she takes over and runs the ship for a little while (4 hours, max).
But, on the other hand, we share most of the duties while we're both at home, like eating and bathing and the bed-time routine and whatnot, but I'm still the primary one taking him out to the park and chasing after him day-in and day-out ... taking him to story-time in the park or at the local library ... and to the meetups a local group puts on for at-home parents ... and just about anything fun I can drum up!
brianc - I know what you mean: my mother-in-law is a CPA and is our pinch hitter for when we need to get out and this season has been a complete shut out for us. :(
My other half is faculty, so she has different schedules every day, but in general
Wake up: 6:00 to 6:30 am, Saturday and Sundays 7-8 am
She leaves: around 8:00 am
Son nap: from 2 to 4 pm (usually I joint him)
She arrives: around 6:00 pm
dinner time: around 8:00 pm
bed time of my son: around 9:30 - 10:00 pm
wife preparing classes: between 10:00pm and 1:00 am, I keep helping with cup of thee or glass of milk
going to sleep: around 1:30 - 2:00 am Except Sat and Sun 11:00 pm
Now that summer break is almost here, I hope we can sleep more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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On MWF it's 08:10-17:30
On T,TH it's 08:30-17:00 since the wife is working from home those days, which are worse than when she is at the office since she feels the need to pop in whenever she feels like and mess up the nap schedule.
I am out the door to class or work at 5:35 every night usually.
My wife is a pharmacist and works the midnight shift; they do 7 days on 7 days off. Since those are 12 hour shifts I am basically on duty 24/7 one week and then we share on her week off; but I still do a bit more of the baby wrangling when she is home. I also work from home on the weekends which makes every other weekend truly challenging; kind of like 'baby overtime duty.'
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My wife leaves for the office at 6:45am, and returns home usually between 8 and 9p, sometimes she'll make it home by 7p, and maybe twice a month on Fridays, by 6. Fortunately she only travels overnight a few times a year. I guess my shift is about 12 to 15 hours long. What is a family dinner?
Alby1 - Chicago, IL
I usually wake up 7:30 - 8:00 when my son wakes up. Wife goes to work at 10 and gets every moment of sleep she can. She returns home around 7:30-8:00. We give our 13 month old a little later bed time to spend time with mom (that's why he sleeps in till 8). So my 'shift' is about 12 hours.
Grandma watches our son for 4-6 hours one day a week. I go out for Dad's time on Friday nights.
I also dread when she has to travel for her job. Which is 4-5 days 3 times a year.
Not complaining, she's very supportive and does the best she can for our family.
My wife is primarily home office but travels quite a bit. Still, the rules are, when mom's in the office, she's not here. She is presumed to be "at work" until she comes out and asks whether I've thought about what I want to make for dinner or should she throw something together. There are days when she is on the phone at 7 a.m. and not finished talking with clients overseas until 10 or 11 at night but those days are few and far between.
Mondays are always the worst due to conference calls, etc, but the rest of the week is pretty much 8 to 6-ish. Her evening schedule, like mine, revolves around hockey and gymnastics practices so who does dinner and when it gets eaten varies daily. Weekends are insane as we have hockey games in and out of town with some insane 6:30 a.m. practices thrown in just for grins. The longest continuous shift I ever pulled was 11 days on a 4 day business trip that got snowed in a few years back. Thank God for Grammy or I would've pulled all my hair out.
Making it look difficult. Living the dream.
My wife leaves right after 7am and even takes my 5yr old to school. 6mo old jacqueline is usually up by then. It's just me & her until 3;30 when jordan gets out of school, then I'm in charge of both until 5:30, when my loving and supportive wife comes home.
Of course, I never stop being dad. The wife and I share the kids until they go to bed. My only "me" time is between about 9:30 and 11:00, when i am the only one still up and I can get in some valuable time with my PC or Gamecube.
After hearing about SAHDs whose wives work longer hours, as well as single dads, I feel like a jerk for ever even THINKING about complaining... I don't actually remember if I ever did complain, but if I did, then I was a jerk.
So why don't they call it mooching when the wife stays home?
My wife travels 2-3 days every week and usually is home by 6pm when she is in town. She almost always is out the door by 7am when the kids are just getting up. Lately, however, she has been working late, usually to about 7pm. Maybe that doesn't sound all that bad, but consider this - the lions start chewing on my leg if I don't feed them by at least 5:30pm and 2 of them are in bed by 7pm while the other 2 stay up until 8pm. If my wife is not home by 6pm to help with bathtime, she might as well work until whenever, 'cause she's not home in time to be of any use.
In fact, Saturday was the first time all 6 of us had dinner together in at least 3 weeks! Not exactly the ideal situation right now.
kchomedad, now in Omaha
My wife is scheduled to go back to work next week and she's freaking out about it (especially since Talia's not taking a bottle yet). In fact the partners from her firm are supposed to be stopping by for a visit today (they're already late, attorneys) and we'll discuss work arrangements then. Hopefully she'll be able to do part time from home for a bit and then go into the office a couple times a week and work from home the rest. We'll have to see but as first time parents, we're both nervous about it. She's freaking about being away from Talia and I'm nervous about what to do with a two month old all day and still get stuff done!
5:00 - 5:30am - My wife leaves the house and the youngest boy (2) is usually up to say goodbye.
6:00 - 7:00am - My oldest (11) wakes up we usually review homework and make sure everything is in his backpack.
7:00 - 7:20am - take oldest boy to school.
7:30 - 8:00am - the youngest and I eat breakfast
8:00am - 1:50pm - clean house, get groceries, play
1:50 - 2:00pm - pick up oldest from school
2:00 - 6:00pm - help oldest with homework, do my homework, little one takes a nap (2 hrs if I'm lucky), start dinner
6:00 - 7:00pm - wife gets home, we eat dinner or I leave for class depending on the day.
7:00 - 9:00pm - boys spend time with mom then go to bed.
9:00 - 11:00pm - wife goes to bed, I study and get ready for the next day.
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