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SimonsDad
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Hi all,

I'm the father of an almost 4 month old, and just found this site.

I am continuously surprised by the number of activities for new moms that exclude new dads here in the Lexington, MA area. I came to this site originally to see if there were local dads groups (haven't found one yet), but figure I'll look around a bit and see what I can find while I'm here.

Why does it seem that there are moms groups (many), dads groups (a few) but virtually no parent groups open to either parent of a newborn?


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Submitted by SimonsDad on Thu, 05/22/2008 - 11:25am.

dayv27
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welcome

Welcome to the site, and yeah, it's frustrating. Especially if your local "parents'" group is only for moms. I know there are some dads up in the New England area, but I'm not sure where. Check the dads lists here and on Rebeldad.com.

www.athomedadconvention.com


Thu, 05/22/2008 - 11:43am

dbrigham
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Boston-Area dads!

Welcome to the site! I'm the admin for the Boston-Area Dads on this site, which at this point consist of, well, me. There are a few other dads in the Greater Boston area who have checked out this site, but none have stuck around. I live in Newton and have a nearly 11-month-old girl and a boy who'll be 6 tomorrow. We should definitely get together.

Dave, full-time child roadie for Owen and Amelia
www.davebrigham.com


Thu, 05/22/2008 - 12:27pm

Samuel
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More From Red Sox Nation

I'm an expectant father in Brookline - due in July. Do I have to wait to introduce myself?


Thu, 05/22/2008 - 7:49pm

CiaAlum92
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Welcome Simons dad and Samuel

It is nice to see you here on the site...
Samuel, No you don't have to wait.
Post away...
Chef Kev
"I doodit myself Daddy"!!!!!
JPhillip said it, therefor it is, Chef= C=Caring, H=Helpful, E=Excellent, F=Fubar


Thu, 05/22/2008 - 8:58pm

dbrigham
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Hi Samuel

Welcome to the site. It's good to see more Boston-area guys joining up. As I mentioned to SimonsDad, I live in Newton and am looking to put together a dad's group. Contact me directly if you want to discuss this. Hope all is going well in advance of the birth.

Dave, full-time child roadie for Owen and Amelia
www.davebrigham.com


Fri, 05/23/2008 - 6:21am

familyguy.2007
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Welcome fellow Massachusetts Dad!

Its about time that more SAHD here came out of the closet! I'm from West Springfield, MA (Just west of Springfield, duh!) so I'm not in your area, but its still nice to have more dads from the same state! I know there are a many more SAHDs around - I see them in the local Barnes and Noble or Borders mostly. The dads with the child/children that don't seem overwhelmed or exasperated - their stroller is well supplied with all that's needed for a day out at the mall (And, might I add, they know how to use all the stuff they have packed.) Anywhositwhatchamacallit... welcome aboard!


Fri, 05/23/2008 - 7:47am

dbrigham
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i've been outed

I've been outed; I wasn't even in!

(Not that there's anything wrong with that.)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ild8w0rHQU&feature=related

Dave, full-time child roadie for Owen and Amelia
www.davebrigham.com


Fri, 05/23/2008 - 8:42am

New No.2
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Welcome

Hey Samuel,
Welome to the comolex yet rewarding full time world of at daddy-ing.
I live in NYC but I was born in Westfield while we are all talking about Mass

And my little green eyed monster must say, "Damn, you live in Lexington? Shee-oot it's nice their."

Keep posting!

Be Seeing You.
Jonathan


Fri, 05/23/2008 - 11:24am

Samuel
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This is Great!

Thanks so much for the warm welcome.

In full disclosure, I'm not expecting to be full-time at-home after the first two months, but I am looking to share equally with my wife. Until I came across this site, I didn't find much out there that contemplated shared parenting - at most, they acknowledge that fathers can "help," implying that men are by definition in a Number 2 role, rather than an equal Number 1, which is my hope.

I'd be delighted to meet at a playground in Newton (or Brookline) next weekend. Tried to contact Dave Brigham through this site, but I must have been doing something wrong, because I got a server error.

Thanks again for the welcome. I look forward to meeting.

Samuel


Sat, 05/24/2008 - 10:41am

KevH
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just keep looking

If you can't find any dad's groups, just keep kicking tires and you'll find a mom's or a "parent's" group that will be happy to let a dad in.

Either way, make sure you leave the house and do things, don't be a hermit just because you don't have an active social group. That's not good for anyone.

I'm Not a Slacker


Sat, 05/24/2008 - 3:31pm

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