How much is too much?

Cliff The Fire Dad
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Well, the time is finally coming near. The kid's activities are starting to stack up. With so much talk recently of having kids do too much, I have to wonder what you all use to draw the line.

My daughter will be in dance, gymnastics, kids chorus after school, science club, and possibly now girl scouts. She is starting first grade in the fall, so full school days are also here. We ask her if she wants to drop any of them, and she usually says no.

My son will be in soccer, gymnastics, and 9 hours a week of preschool.

The only person that seems to be overwhelmed at times is me. I volunteer one day a week at my daughter's class, one day a month at my son's preschool, try to sell fire equipment from my home, do all the manly stuff around the house, and if I am really lucky, I get to fight a fire.

To paraphrase a famous cartoonist, "The days are just packed!"

So, when does giving your child experiences turn into driving your child too hard?




Mr. Dad
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Ask Them

I don't have experience in this really, but I would just ask your kids. It is my gut feeling that your kids may do whatever you throw at them, thinking it will make you happy. Maybe ask what do they like? Do they do too much?

My 3 yo told me the other day when I asked her if she wanted to go to the park... "actually Daddy, I just want to stay home and rest". PRICELESS!



mikeSAHD
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I'm not looking forward to those days...

but I know it will happen. My partner and I have already discussed this topic ad nauseam. I have been pretty firm when it comes to music and martial arts. Our son (and next child, too) will take music lessons as well as some form of martial arts. I realize, however, that our child(ren) have minds of their own, and may not want either. Hopefully, this won't be the case. I also realize that our child(ren) may want to play/practice/learn other activities too. I guess we will have to balance what is important to them, what is important to us, what we have time to allow and what we can afford all while trying to balance a good education.

Good luck!!! I'd be interested to hear how it goes.



GuitarDad
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My rule of thumb with the

My rule of thumb with the kids and activities was - Pick one thing at a time, we aren't going to be be chauffeuring you all over kingdom come with multiple outside activities. This worked very well, kids usually "think" they want to do all kinds of things, but, if they focus on one true interest at a time everyone benefits. The family from not going nuts chasing all the schedules around and the kids benefit from a more evenly paced life while having the time to truly focus on their most preferred interest.



Electriclime
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Quality

I too can't say that I have any experience with this situation; other than my full time college plus full time work days. The first thing that pops into my mind when I think about all the activities is when does it sacrifice quality? When does adding one more activity take a bite out of the enjoyment/enrichment of the other activities and/or family time?

Secondly, at their age how much are really getting out of specific activities? Are they on a soccer team because they enjoy soccer or is there another reason; such as they just like playing with the other kids? I remember my first year of soccer, 2nd grade, and not really caring about the game; while in 3rd through 6th I was really into it.

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