Community. From An Old Timer.

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Hey Guys,
I thought I would set aside my corn cob pipe and turn off The People's Court for a while to chime in on AtHomeDad.

I agree with some of the sentiment being bandied about, certainly this site is going to attract newer fathers, or those who just found the site, I think that is a given. I admit as an Old Timer or Vet here I check in less and post less but my situation – as all of ours does as our kids develop – had started to change. Many of us have kids heading back to school or in my case starting school. I’m happy but also a bit maudlin that my little girl is off to school. I have been covetous of these our last few “baby days.”

However I would hate to see this site change in one particular way, our sense of community. There has been some talk about “no rants no diatribes” but I have to disagree. More than once on a day where I was not sure if I was going to make it through the day, I posted about my insecurities and low moral. And within a few hours men like JonMcP and JPhillip were bolstering my spirits. I was hesitant to post personal stuff at first but, in the end, I was not sure who else would understand. In one way or another we have all been there for each other. Even if just surfing the site you can see there are other dads out there with the same thoughts and similar situations. Being a New Yorker I thought I would be knee deep in AHDs but I couldn’t find a one. While not the same I did find y’all here on this site and at times it has been a life saver.

I enjoy this site because we are all supportive and there aren’t any “haters” to spoil things like on so many sites. I love talking pop culture and current events to some degree but I hope we can keep this site as open and welcoming to the new comer as it was to me and to the other Old Timers. I don’t think we need worry to much about what others think about us, we all know, the difference here is that it’s public. Heaven knows how many reporters and researchers had us do their jobs for them, but, this is where Google takes you when you enter “at home dads.”

We are a small group, a vanguard, a forlorn hope, we are The Pathfinders the first on the ground on D-Day and we know it. Our lives and choice to be and stay at home fathers, may not make an impact on history but it sure has a huge impact in the lives of our kids. I feel that we really show the world that you can be what you want in life, even if it is to stay home with the kids.

That’s it from Brooklyn…those darn kids are on my lawn again, gotta go.

~Jonathan




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Couple o' thoughts

1) Your prose is very poetic. Good stuff. I think you are right.

2) I bet that your morale was low while your morals were a bit higher. :-)

3) "Kids are on my lawn" = BB gun. Lots of fun til they catch you. (legal disclaimer: kiddin'.)

4) We probably shouldn't go to extremes in one direction or the other (No Rants! Only for New Fathers! No Repeat Topics! No Random Topics! Only Random Topics!). I don't think that is completely what you are implying, but I get a bit of that sentiment in reading your writing. But this oasis seems to be as diverse a group of get-along guys and topics as I have found on the internet. I like to come back here, even when I have nothing new to contribute. I'm glad to get to know most of you (now starts the psychological mind-screw: "Who is he talking about?!") Another legal disclaimer: kiddin'.

5) I'm not an old-timer or a new-timer. I guess, in all ways, I am a middle-ager. Room for everyone, I guess.



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New #2

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Thoughts from a new/old timer

Greetings all,
What is a news/old timer? I don't know either. But I am an "old" timer in that I've been a SAHD for six years now, and I am very 'new' to this forum. I am 42 years old, thus neither a new or old timer in the life experiences realm.

As a newbie to this forum I do not know its history or protocol. But I have garnered a sense of this forum's tone and tenor and I find all of you very supportive, honest, helpful and eager. What a great place to be!

Being at home with the kids, 6 (today!) and 3.5, I think rants from new AHDs are appropriate and should be welcomed. It can be very frustrating to face the issues that we do, and each of us views our experiences as unique. While the issues may have been discussed before on this forum, I think it is important to hear them out and respond. There are always new perspectives to be heard, and new AHDs to help along. I wish I had this site on my radar during these six years as I've had many rants that my wife could not completely understand. Rants are simply issues raised.

Having said all that I have seen no ill-will towards repetitive posts, but I would hate to see issues that we have faced be squelched. Raising kids is ever changing (duh) and just as I thought I had it all under control I entered this summer - my daughter's first true summer break. She just finished kindergarten and there was no summer preschool which she had done, part-time, during previous summers. A whole summer with her is great, but she is now older and is building a more mature sense of friendships - that is, she wants more and more play dates, and I'm not entertaining enough! I understand. Point is we are all experiencing "new" issues that should be shared and discussed.

Enough. Thanks all for this new community!

Brian



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