It isn't that they can't, it's that they chose not to. Most people live life unconcious if what motivates them. Unconcious of how there action will effect other people's lives. My wife worked with a woman who's husband - a former fighter pilot - felt that their life should not be alterd by having a kid. So with his son at 4 mons. he started to plan a trip to Italy. Now that isn't infantacide but it's the same nonsence that gets children killed, beaten, and neglected, all over the world. Not to mention the styigma around post-pardem and using SSRI drugs to balance the minds of the women who need it.

One needs a license to drive a car, to regester to vote, a licence for a dog but a chiald? (I know that sounds Owellian.)

Be Seeing You.

You are reacting strongly to a situation that can only be described as "evil." And I know how you feel.

I know some of you are atheists so you can skip this paragraph, but I find great comfort in God when I read a story like this. I am not a Bible-verse-memorizer, but I recall a verse where Jesus says it is better for a man like this father to hang a stone around his neck and jump into the river rather than harm one of His children. This "father" will have his day of judgement here in the judicial system, and again later.

When I started reading your thread, LordSetta, I assumed it was some sort of sick joke, that this couldn't be real. Of course, the tragedy of it is the reality.

Hopefully, though, every parent in the world will see this sort of story, evaluate their own situation and, with any luck, give up their child if they feel they are on a similarly destructive path.

I know that sounds a little Pollyanna-esque, but I mention this as an alternative to regulating and licensing child-bearing. That is, yes, "You need a license to fish, drive a car, or kill a deer, but any old sonuvab#tch can have a kid." (a loose paraphrase from the Steve Martin movie "Parenthood"). But going down that regulatory road will cause more problems than it would fix.

having prospective parents go through what we went through to adopt? It certainly makes sense to me. When two people are ready to have children, they must contact the state agency (for this scenario, I'll suggest CPS - we actually went through our adoption agency). The agency then requires that you enroll in a 5- or 10-week course on what to expect when having children. You must also have a social worker come into your home for four visits to evaluate whether you are parent material, your house is safe and you are able to provide a stable environment to raise a child. You are subjected to a background check to rule out those who are child abusers, provide fingerprints, financial records, medical records, to name a few. Once you have completed all the required documentation, coursework and preparation, you wait with the hope that one day your baby will arrive with one head, two arms and two legs, ten fingers and ten toes. Shortly after his/her arrival, your agency calls to schedule the first of four post-placement visits, again to assess that you are still not a maniac, the house is safe, and you are providing a stable environment to raise the child.

If you decide that you want to have another baby, you must start the process all over again, save for a few steps (you don't have to enroll in the class).

As I write this post, hoping to infuse some light-heartedness, I admit to myself that I get extremely angry when I hear/read of situations such as this. All kidding aside, we had to go through the above process, but I understand the rationale behind it. Yet, anyone...anyone can have a child regardless of whether they are fit to be parents.

The government in the U.S and probably most of the rest of the world. Will let any crackhead off the street ruin a persons life but when a perfectly good human being wants to make a young childs life easier and raise a decent human being wants to do it they get all this drama and throw back because of his/her supposed sexual inclinations. It is retarded. so many gay and lesbian families do beter than most straight ones do but yet governments and religious institutions give them so much beef about it because they are gay/lesbian it almost makes you want to give up on the world and all the hipocracy and crap in it. but we can't because we have the chance to try and instill a good set of values to our children and maybe the next generation can fix our generations mistakes by loving and caring for humanity and the genral populace. it is through love and understanding not diversification and hate that will save our world from this wicked path of destruction we have set it apon.

I wasn't trying to say all straight people are bad I was just making a point that they give perfectly good candidates for adoption such a hard time because they are gay or lesbian. I know straight people go through the same process but I am pretty sure it is harder for gay or lesbian couples to adopt I don't even think they can in some states. I'm Not sure. What I do know is the little bit the government is doing obvisiouly isn't good enough when you hear about child murders, abuse, rape, ect so much. Like I said before. In the times before being a parent I didn't take as much notice but now I notice it way too much I guess. One of my in-laws has two kids she doesn't take care of and they never get taken away. CAS ( Children's Aid Society, which is Canada's agency for childrens services. ) Has been to her house with warnings multiple times and nothing really changes. We get sick of it. We feel so sorry for those poor kids and the governments not doing much about it. And it is really sad because the government up here is good about taking care of people so there should be no reason her kids have to live like that it is just because she is sooooo fucking lazy. I guess at the end of the day we just have to make sure we do our est to make sure our children are safe and they learn the necessary skills in life to be good parents as well...