One day it will just click when she has developed enough mentally and the whole process will make sense to her. She has to develop the feeling, the urge, the need and the ability in the right order and what it all means. They call it toilet training/learning but you can’t teach the monkey something they do not understand yet.
You reading things on the Internet about kids who ”learn” at 12 months and I would say that is mostly hogwash, although possible but very unlikely by a person who wants a toilet prodigy. If my kid were to be a prodigy I would want them to excel at something more than depositing a “lumber camp” in the right spot at an early age.
Don't pull your hair out, 21 months is still young.

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I've just been through it - lad's two and a half and I was despairing of it ever happening, but the truth was, I wasn't ready. I had a half-arsed go at it, then found an excuse to put back on the nappies. You gotta remember that kids don't see it as important, especially if you don't proritise it. Drawing, watching Scooby Doo, running around screaming, these things are much more fun. Why sit on a potty when the world's out there? I'm not saying you're not committed, just that with me, I wasn't - and it wasn't until I focussed that it worked.

In the end, I cleared my schedule (such as it is) and concentrated on this 100%. Here's a few tricks that seemed to work:
- Took him to the potty every 20 minutes at first. No big deal, do it or don't, just getting the idea in there, rather than getting him to sit still for long periods.
- Put him in pants. Scooby Doo pants, in fact. Made a big deal about how grown up he was and how big boys wee in the potty, etc.
- Kept him in pants. Scorched earth policy - don't confuse her with mixed messages like putting her in nappies when he goes on a car journey or whatever.
- Reinforcement. Or you could call it bribery. We had a Peppa Pig (do you have that over there?) chart up on the wall by the toilet and he got to choose a Peppa sticker.

In the end it took about three weeks - one of which, we were on holiday (took the chart, etc).
Took him ages to TELL me he wanted to go, but it happened.
Hope that's of some use?