Family courts CA

4minimes
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Okay i am turning to the SAHD'S come on guys I need all the help that I can get.

I have been in a huge battle with the local Family Court ( sacramento ) I have been keeping a log for the last 14 months or so of what has happend and how many of the current court orders have been violated. I have about 8 pages, double spaced,  still a whole lot. I have taken this to the courts sevral times now, heck there is even minor's counsel involed ( she isn't doing her job either, won't even see nor talk to the kids this has resulted in the state bar involed for her ).  I am not allowed to request new counsel for the kids. This is still ending up with the current orders staying the same way and without recourse of any kind to my ex wife,  in a nut shell she is allowed to basicly commet muder in front of the court and nothing is done.

SO I come her asking looking for any kind of help or advice, we have dumped out close to 30,000 with all that we have been through over the last 2.5 yrs. still even with counsel, nothing changed, the system is so broken and screwed up.  I have lost 3 great paying jobs over the many time that I have been to court, jail also thanks to the lies of the ex, that was all disproven and thrown out of court, not so fun sitting for 12hrs in the local holding cells.

What do I write, to whom do I write to, who else is higher up in this system ( above the judge ) is there anyone who can be involed?  I am at my wits end here with all of this, I don't know how much more my head or heart can deal with these things.  HHHHHHHEEEEELLLLLLPPPP

Chris........




4minimes
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PROUD DAD OF JOSH 11, NICK

PROUD DAD OF JOSH 11, NICK 5, EVAN & ISAAC! (twins 1 yr) Just Keep smiling, They will wonder what you are up to!!!

so this has been up for a few days now =, come guys I am reachin out here. I am at my end with this, almost to point of just bout giving the boys to the ex to stop all this B>S> Please HHHEEELLLPPP



kclb58
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Not a lot of info given...

Who has custody? What are the problems? You say you have been keeping a log of violated court orders, do you go to the police every time? There is an awesome lawyer for fathers here in Chicagoland- his website has a bunch of useful info. www.dadsrights.com I wish I could help you with more info, but I'm in Chicago my man. I'm sure Cali is way different. Best of luck, your story truly breaks my heart. I'll be praying for you and your boys. Andy



Albyonfloats
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California has some screwed up laws

Unless your ex is a convicted murderer, the state thinks she's a better parent than you.  Sorry, but it's true. 

 

You're obviously frustrated because we didn't get a lot of useful information there, or enough to give any useful advice.  My thoughts are several:

 

  • Ditch your current lawyer or threaten them with a malpractice suit.  After 30 grand you ought to have more than a folder full of violations to show for his/her efforts.  
  • Request a new judge/hearing to modify custody agreement.  Your mountain of violations should prove useful with someone else.
  • Ask your NEW lawyer if charges could be brought against your ex in criminal court RE: all the violations your ex has committed.  If there really are that many violations, call the police and have her arrested for violating the court ordered arrangement.
  • Have someone call Child Protective Services about the way the kids are acting/treated/whatever.  It CANNOT be you or anyone related to you.  Maybe a sympathetic parent you know from school can comment to the school about their care when they are with their mother.  Be sure they get their dates right or it could come back on you.  
  • You're in Sacramento, go online and look for advocacy groups for dad's rights.  I guarantee you are not out of options, just fresh ideas.  
  • Find out which Senators or Representatives have legislature regarding this type of stuff and contact their office and try to become the poster boy for the broken system.  Getting a glory-seeking government official behind you could get you (and them) a lot of attention.
  • Contact your local tv news channels and see if you can get one of their investigative reporters on your case.  Nothing makes headlines like families in crisis and a big old ugly busted govt that does nothing about it.  Makes everybody look bad and that makes them look good for uncovering it. Just be prepared to have your life put under a microscope too. They aren't going to take your side without being sure it's the right one first.

 

 

Best of luck!  Keep the faith!

 

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4minimes
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PROUD DAD OF JOSH 11, NICK

PROUD DAD OF JOSH 11, NICK 5, EVAN & ISAAC! (twins 1 yr) Just Keep smiling, They will wonder what you are up to!!!

THANK YOU THANK YOU

I have done most of all the above except the last of call local Senators or Representatives, that seems to be the best, as for the loca news I have email them, they only say that it something we don't get involed in. For the part of the local police/sheriff ya right, I have heard every excuse from them not to take her in, th best is take it back to family court.

Again thanks for the infor I will take off running with it,

Chris



Thepfam6
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New to the site.

All the advice I can offer Chris is to go before the Lord (not to get too religious).  I have never been in your situation but I imagine it is hell.  When I came to the wits end of myself several years ago (long story), He took over.  Some interesting supernatural things happened.  Anyway, human struggles and battles can only go so far.  Then it's time to look up.  He's always waiting.  Remember that man makes plans, and God laughs!  Cast your cares on Him and refuse to take them back!  He's loving, and big enough to handle it!  I'll be praying for your situation as well.  Keep in touch.

Charlie

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The harder I work, the luckier I get.



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