Daughter Troubled by Past Rape

SebastianU
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My family once lived overseas in a country that was not much civilized. However my wife is American and she met me in my home country. We have lived there for 16 years. I have a daughter by my first wife who was raped by this guy whom she had only met twice. She did not tell me that it happened until a month later. And since it was considered a long time there was nothing we could do but file a police report and hope that he confessed that he did it. But he never did. I found out from other people that he had a history of being agressive with other young girls and that there was even one other girl who had went to the police with rape charges against him. When I found this out I was angry that the police did notihing to stop this guy from doing it again.

He would then start taunting her and following her home from school. So I drove her to school and back my self everyday. But it got to the point where he would seem to show up wherever she was in public and just watch her and kept harassing her. She eventually stopped wanting to leave the house and would refuse to go to school because of this guy. I was trying to hold in my anger and not take it out on this guy but i could not deal with it anymore. So I went to his house while no one was there ands waited for him. Lets just say he bothers not one now. This was nearly 4 years ago and at one point she was much better and had seemed to have gotten over the situation. But now I think she is relapsing, she seems to be afraid to go anywhere alone and will hardly leave home. This has ruined her life in the past but she was able to move past it. Now I think she is starting to let those same feelings come back. Even though we live in a different country and I physically made it so that he could not harm anyone. What should I do to help her get through this again? She has a therapist, but I don't think its working this time.

 




Goldwinger
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Joined: 2009-08-02
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This is sad

You did the right thing.. I would have done something to this turkey too.. Only much worse.. It may help if your daughter knew what you did to him.. It may give her some sense of satisfaction and help her to move on..

No one,, I mean no one has the right to harm our children.. if someone does, then they accept the wrath of the parent..

Just my feelings about it..



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