Hey J.V. North,

You are entitled to your feeling however, the question I have for you is have you discussed how you feel with your wife?  Do your best to discuss things and keep as much of the emotion out of the conversation.  You will also want to express to your wife how it is that you feel and how you are expereincing things with family gatherings and that you feel unconfortable with those gatherings because you are not sure that everyone understands how your wife and you have decided to raise your children.  You need to get things out in the open with her and help to discuss ways so that you do not feel to a degree inferior or less than because she is the bread winner.  There are a lot of people I know that tell me that they are jealous that I am fortunate enough to be at home with my twins however, I really debate within my own mind whether some of them just laugh at me saying that I am a slacker or something else derogatory behind my back.  Plus when it comes to finances, that is always a difficult one to work on.  I still at times believe that my wife gives me a harder time because I am the one who did not have a career and did not make the money that she does.  It is rough however, you have to keep taking things one at a time and you have to keep communication open between your wife and yourself so that she knows how you are feeling.  Best of luck on what is happening and keep the faith that everything is going to be all right.

Robb, At Home Dad to Twins Isabel & Sam