Hi dads!

ScottyG
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Hi everyone!  My name's Scott, and I've currently got a daughter who's about to turn 2 in March... and another daughter on the way, arriving in early May or so.  Yay!  Last school year, I stayed at home with my little girl while my wife worked full time (she's a college professor).  This year, I'm working full-time (as a freelance musician) while my wife stays home with our daughter.  And starting in August, I'll be staying home (probably for the next 5 years at least) with both little girls.

 

To add a level of difficulty, very soon after we have baby girl #2, we'll be moving to a new state where we don't know anyone.  So I'm doing a lot of thinking about how I can make this experience work for me: I absolutely love staying at home with the kids (had a great time last year), but am very nervous about having 2 to deal with instead of 1, and even more nervous about leaving my current community behind (we live in Madison, Wisconsin) and moving to a brand new community.  We're moving to the Western part of Virginia, a lovely but tiny town of about 3,000 people in the middle of the Appalachians.  I'm very excited to move, but nervous too.

 

Anyway, just thought I'd tell you a bit about my situation, and hope to get to know you better in the near future!

 

-Scott

 

 




TopDog
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You'll Make it Wherever you Move

You and your family made good friends, you'll make new ones.  Don't worry.



chitownman
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Hey Scotty

Hey Scotty,

Welcome to the group.  As you already know this is a great and unique experience that  you are getting to enjoy.  I understand how you feel in regards to moving shortly after your second child is born.  My twins were born on December 15, 2005 and we had to move on June 1st, 1,555 miles away from where I did have family and friends all around me.  Fortunately I heard about the local At Home Dads group and got involved right away with them.  Initially it was only going to Dads Night Out because my twins were still napping twice a day however, once we ditched the morning nap I started attending the play group.  Between this board and others you may run into, you may find a local At Home Dads group to be a part of.  I would also recommend using www.sittercity.com to find a babysitter so that you and your wife may have a date night once in a while which will be crucial during the change to the new town.  Best of luck and if you are able to start planning now, come to Omaha Nebraska for the 15th Annual At Home Dads National Convention.  The convention is on October 2, 2010 and I promise it will be well worth your trip.  If you are able to work it to come in on Thursday September 30th, we are planning an incredible Dads Night Out in conjunction with the Convention, plus there will be plenty to do on Friday October 1st as well.  Check out the convention website at www.athomedadconvention.com.

Robb Midwest Regional Coordinator

Daddy's Home INC - The National At-Home Dad Network

www.daddyshome.org



ScottyG
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thanks!

Thanks for the words of encouragement!  Robb, do you have any suggestions for meeting other dads in rural areas?  The nearest at-home dad group to my soon-to-be home is about 5 hours away... I am moving somewhere very rural, and there are not so many networks as there are in cities and suburbs.  Any suggestions as to how you can find dads around without such groups?  Thanks!

-Scott



chadwelch
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welcome

Hey Scott, welcome to the ranks.  We just moved from Minnesota where we were in the exburs, not quite as rural as where you are moving, but still small town.

One thing is you might check with you wife @ her work.  My wife was a pediatrician and in our little town of 10,000 there were a couple of other stay at home dads that wives worked in the same practice as my wife.

You may try finding a mixed playgroup, SAHMs.  They may know if there are any other SAHDs in the area.

You could also try starting your own group on something like meetup.com and see if you attract any others in the area.

While we are not rural now, we have justed moved and I know the struggles of trying to connect.  There is a SAHDs group in STL (about 30 minutes away) but with both kids in school I haven't been able to connect up yet.

So welcome to the fold and enjoy the ride.



Hogan
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Join SAHMs Group

If you can't find any at-home dads, don't be shy about interacting with the stay-at-home moms.

I was involved with an at-home dad group and an at-home mom's group.  Both were beneficial.

Good luck with the move.

Keep On Daddying,

Hogan Hilling, 20 year at-home dad veteran, Board Member At-Large, Daddyshome, Inc. - The National At-Home Dad Network www.daddyshome.org

 



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