Hi, my daughter introduced me to her 19 (almost 20) year old boyfriend, but she is only 16. While she is very mature and I can tell he isn't sleazy, it still seems like the age difference might be too large. He is in college, but she is only a sophmore in high school.
I'm a single dad and her mom isn't around at all. All of my friends and coworkers who I've talked to about this have had very different responses.
So, is he too old?
too old
Big difference btwn maturity level of 16 & 20.
Yes
My daughter is still a toddler so maybe not my place for advice but when I'm in your shoes I would not want my daughter going to frat parties or hanging in dorms.
this is a question that has
this is a question that has come up many times at our house.
my wife was not allowed to attend a senior prom during her freshman year, because her mom told her she had no business being out with an 18 year boy when she was only 15. She still holds a grudge about this and says that our daughter should be allowed. I agree with her mother and have said and still say absolutely not. There's a big difference in maturity level in kids two years age difference at this point in thier lives. Besides, (and let's face it we're mostly men here) if you went out with a 16 year old girl when you were 19 or 20, we know what we were thinking at that time, and the boys now are still thinking the same thing. We are trying to protect our little girls for as long as we can.
agreed
16 and 19 isn't too far apart in age, but that's a huge maturity gap. Would you have dated a high school girl while you were in college? What would you have thought about one of your peers who did?
Kinda Taboo
Nowadays, it's kinda taboo, well that has been what i have seen out here in Ca.
Christopher Peer
age is just a number
Not sure what I would do. My oldest is only 11, but I tell her she can’t date until 35 :P
That being said, I was 18 when I met my wife, and she TOLD me she was 16. She was only 15, but by the time I found out I was all ready in love. Are age was off, but our maturity levels were right on. 4 kids, and 15 years later we're still together (damn I'm getting old
) f.y.i. she was 18 when our fist kid was born 
biggest problem i see is she
biggest problem i see is she is gonna see him if she wants to and it is better to know what is going on then be in the dark. of course what do i know..i only have two boys, the 3yo being the oldest
yes...too old!!!
This is a touchy subject and should be approached in a tactful way to not intise your daughter to rebel but I do think that the age difference is too old. Although he may not seem "sleezy" right now (remember the "eddie haskels" of the world) you dont know what happens in dorm rooms or college parties when drinking is involved. I have a 15 1/2 year old and would NOT allow her to date a freshman or sophomore in college. She may be very mature but may not have the emotional fortitude to handle the situations that she may be put into going forward. College MEN should not date high school girls...Also ask yourself this question...Why can't he find anyone in college his own age to date? Hmmmmm.... I smell smoke.
is he to old
I must agree well said.
wow
I am happy that I will not have to deal with dating for a few years yet. I would be concerned about the age differance between 16 and 20. I would lean toward reminding the fellow that physical contact with your daughter is illeagle due to her being underage. It may help him to loose interest. Good luck.-Aaron
Rule of Thumb
The old rule goes, half your age plus seven. So, say he's 20. Half that is 10. Plus seven is 17. If she's not 17, he's too old.
I isn't a legally enforceable rule, but it is something that you can point to that is semi-tangible. That is, if you want to say no, wait till you're older. If he is truly a class act, he can wait. And if it's love, he will.