talking to your kids about meat

Archdad
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So, let me start with the usual disclaimers. I eat meat, my wife and I are not vegetarians. We live in a relatively rural area and have family members that hunt, we make deer sausage, bratwurst and summer sausage, we have relatives that are raising chickens to eat. We tend to be pretty "progressive" when it comes to our kids. Okay so now you have half the picture. 

About a week ago our 3-1/2 yo son played with the chickens that will eventually be eaten. The next day he had a meltdown when we were getting ready to eat, you guessed it, chicken. Tonight we were watching a travel show that was showing fishermen catching sardines. Our son announced about ten minutes later that he didn't want to eat fish or any animals. I don't think he is getting this idea from us.

I will say now that part of the issue is the placement of feelings and emotions to the animals, that happens in books and cartoons. So the questions for my fellow dads are 1) Is this common? 2) is this just a phase? 3) Is this vegetarianism, something that should be discouraged or encouraged? 4) what do you tell your kids if they ask about where the meat comes from? 5) any other thoughts on this subject you would like to share.

Thanks

 




jpod00
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Eat Meat

We had a similar phase.  By pure chance, we fell into a discussion about the difference between 'loving fish' & 'eating fish'.  Basically, how some fish are for pets, and others are for food.  Without stretching the truth, we emphasized that some animals are raised specifically to be eaten, and some are not.  It also helped to let him in on the natural food chain idea.  It made him feel okay that he was eating other creatures.  BTW, if you can find a copy of The Magic School Bus books, there is one about the food chain, and it does a good job of pointing out that we eat something that ate something else, that ate something else, etc., without invoking any hard feelings.

We have a friend who's daughter is going through this exact phase, but is making exceptions for chicken nuggets and sushi - all through a similar rationale.  Her dad is a vegetarian, but never tells her she should be.  So, essentially, yes, it is common, and could be just a phase.  Treat this like any other phase; if there's no harm, let it go.  If there are risks to this behavior or choice, intervene.

My $0.02

 

Jim - Boulder, CO - Dad to Cole, Luke, Trev & Delaney - Regional Coordinator, DaddysHome Inc.



chitownman
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Not Sure

Hey Arch Dad,

Not sure on this one as we have not encountered this at all.  It may be as you have thought be some how emotionally tied into things for your son and he is having a hard time understanding what is happening.  I agree with Jim in that you may want to attempt to discuss the difference between animals that may be considered pets and animals that are specifically raised for food.  If he is also able to understand that humans are also animals and with the food chain, we are at the top.  Don't forget to acknowledge what happened for him and let him know it is all right to feel that way however, hopefully he will see things in a better fashion.  And if he really does not want to eat meat again, make sure you find vegetables that will best benefit him the most.  Good luck with it all.

Robb Midwest Regional Coordinator

Daddy's Home INC - The National At-Home Dad Network

www.daddyshome.org



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