Welcome to Meet a Dad! Here is where we like to feature an at home dad from within our community, through interviews conducted by Mike Andrews
1. How many kids do you have and what are their ages? 2 kids, one is 14 years and the other is 18 months.
2. Why did you become a stay at home dad?
I was the primary bread winner, but I was born with scoliosis and kyphosis. As the years went on it just kept getting worse and the back and neck pains, along with headaches, kept getting worse too. So now I stay home. In June of last year I became disabled and filed for disability, so now I can no longer work. So, this is my new job and probably the hardest one yet.
3. Other than spending time with your kids, what do you like about being an at home parent?
That’s a hard one, cause so far it’s been a tough transition for me and my family. I do like being here to make sure the kids stay on a schedule, especially our youngest one. With the oldest it’s just making sure she stays out of trouble, lol.
4. What do you like least?
Being cooped up in the house most of the time. I feel like I’m going stir crazy.
5. What is your normal daily routine like?
I try to wake up around 7 drink my coffee, see the wife and oldest daughter out for school and work, then make breakfast for the little one. Then we relax and play until lunch. After lunch is nap time for her. That’s when I get all the house cleaning and start planning for dinner. After nap, if we can, we’ll go outside for a bit or play inside until mom gets home. Then we have dinner, bath, and whine down for the night until bed. Of course, everyday is different, but on a large scale that’s usually how it goes.
6. If you were to change one thing about yourself as a dad, what would it be?
I’m not as patient as I used to be, and I wish I was more active, physically.
7. What do you like to do in your spare time?
I love computers and technology and wish I had the money to keep up with it, lol.
8. What advice would you give a new At Home Dad?
Learn patience, understanding, and compromise. Don’t let the day in and day out monotony get to you, it can make you feel worthless and not being the primary bread winner can make you feel like your spouse sees you differently. Keep an open line of communication about those things with your spouse.
9. What does your spouse/partner do?
My wife works for a company that transports and works with people with mental retardation, to give them a sense of purpose and independence.
10. What is your best memory of your father?
My mom and dad divorced when I was 8. My step dad raised me from age 10. My step dad and I didn’t get along to well and I only seen my dad during some summers. He’s made more of an effort to talk and visit now that I’m grown and have kids. Other than that our relationship has always been good, although maybe we didn’t really know each other that well.
11. The worst? How did this effect the way you parent your kids?
I feel the worst was kinda answered in the previous question too. Not being raised around my dad bothered me a lot. My oldest daughter is from a very short relationship when I was young, I’ve always made sure that she has had a stable home at my house and I will never let her know what it’s like to not have an active dad. I’m thankful that my youngest won’t have to go through any of the above.
12. What has your experience been as far as how others see your role as an At Home Dad?
I really don’t know how my family feels, no one really talks about it. I know my wife is resentful. She feels cheated, because it was suppose to be her staying home with the baby. We tried for ten years to have our youngest and this happens when she is almost a year old. I feel terrible that I took that away from my wife and wish I could fix it.
13. What cartoon character are you and why?
I’m Garfield. I’m smart enough to do what ever I want to do, but to lazy to do it, and I love good food.
14. Who is the better cook in your home? What is your best meal to cook?
I am, I’m always looking for good recipes and love making casseroles, or crock pot recipes. The best meal would have to be steak, baked potatoes, and corn on the cob. but we cook tacos a lot.
15. Are there any “Dad Groups” in your area that you participate in? If not, what do you do to connect with other parents?
I tried to start a dad group here, but can’t seem to find any that want to participate. I use Facebook to connect with other dads like myself. I also have a blog, www.locodad.info, that I haven’t written in a while, but hope to get the inspiration to start back up again.
16. Favorite kid’s book growing up?
I didn’t really have a favorite book growing up, as a teenager I loved Ann Rice’s Interview with a Vampire. My oldest daughter loved the Dr. Suess books, just about any of them.
17. What is your least favorite kid’s show?
Spongebob! I hope you don’t need an explanation…
19. What was your scariest?
So far, just about any time any of my kids have something wrong with them. My youngest was hospitalized 2 days after birth which was terrifying, and my youngest has had many stitches growing up. All of them have been scary.
20. What do you want your legacy to be? How do you want you kids to remember you?
As a loving, caring, understanding, patient, fair, and fun dad, who they can always come to with anything, no matter what the situation is.