Mother’s day has come  and mothers everywhere celebrated this beautiful occasion. I believe it is a wonderful and very well derived day for mothers of all kind. They work so hard during the year and do not get the appreciation they deserve. Personally, I think that one day a year is not enough but this is what they get so at least let’s make them happy and pamper them during that day. At the same time, Mother’s day is also a perfect opportunity for moms to examine their relations with their kids and the way they raise them and delve into some serious soul searching.  I am especially aiming at a new trend I am seeing all around and I call it: skinny mommies – fat kids.

I can spot them everywhere. They are in the malls, the parks, the movies, restaurants and playgrounds. I see those moms who maintain a very strict diet and look skinny and in shape. They watch what they eat, they go to the gym on a regular basis, they visit the Yoga place several times a week and they read every label before they buy the food product. These mommies treat their bodies like holly shrine. They are always in top shape, wear make up, read and ready for the latest plastic procedures available and overall make sure that they look good and feel as best as they can. These moms can be career women or even stay at home moms, but one thing is common to all of those moms: their health and appearance is top priority for them and they invest (besides money) their time in making sure they are always in the best of their appearance.

And then, there are their kids. And this is where the contrast begins. While the mommies are very cautious about their bodies, they treat their kid the exactly opposite way. While the mommies are in top shape skimping on desert and high calorie foods, their kids are being treated like a garbage disposal. The kids eat junk food, drink sodas, get used to eating processed foods, hardly have any activity, spend their days in front of the TV and computer games, have very small interaction with their parents and slowly get fat and inactive.

The contrast is very obvious and upsetting. The moms who have the power to make the change, the power to influence and the knowledge to care for their bodies  and health, do not treat their kids the same way. I am not saying that their kids need to be skinny as well and wearing all the latest brands, but at least teach them good eating habits, teach them how to read the labels, show them what is good for their bodies and what not and be a role model, a positive one.

And I have to ask myself. If this mom would not be such a narcissist and would invest only 10% of the time she dedicates to herself to her kid, what astonishing results she would get, what a great kid she could have. Give your kids a chance in life. Give them the basic tools to cope with their eating habits and invest less in yourself and more in your kids. They will thank you forever for this.